I believe that our relationships are one of the most influential factors of our mental and emotional state. As current statistics are telling us, about half of all marriages are ending in divorce. The best marriage counseling a couple can receive is good PREmarital counseling. But don’t think because you didn’t have premarital counseling your relationship is destined to end in divorce. Just like with anything else in life you treasure, a marriage should be cared for and maintained. Sadly most people put more effort into their car or house than they do their marriage. There are many factors in a marriage that need to be considered and addressed such as:
- Emotional connection
- Role expectations
- Spirituality and beliefs
- Children/ Parenting
- Sexuality and Intimacy
- Conflict Resolution
All of these issues are the ingredients to relationships. Often one or more of these “ingredients” are missing which can lead to conflict, distance, unhappiness, and infidelity. When infidelity occurs it is difficult to overcome, but not impossible. There are many challenges due to hurt feelings, and a violation of the foundations that marriages are built on; love and mutual respect. If you or someone you know has experienced infidelity in a marriage I would encourage you to seek out a qualified therapist to help in dealing with this issue. Even if a divorce or separation has occurred it can be helpful to meet and talk with a counselor about the struggles and difficulties that have been left in the wake.
Marriage counseling is not just for marriages that are headed for or contemplating divorce or separation. Even good marriages can be benefit from marriage therapy. Don’t be one of the statistics and wait until it is too late to seek help.
Like I said before, the best marriage counseling a couple can get is good premarital counseling. Premarital counseling works to give the tools and mindset have a successful marriage. Many people are not aware of the “stuff” that they are taking into the marriage with them. It is important to address potential issues before they become issues. Much like marriage counseling, Premarital counseling will cover the same topics as listed above with the addition of:
- Family of Origin issues
- Potential areas of Conflict
- Danger signs of Infidelity
- Family Rituals
- Developing realistic expectations